My Tinder Experience 💑

 

A couple years ago I downloaded Tinder, the dating app, because I was curious and maybe a little bored. Anyway, I thought I would share a couple of my Tinder stories because why not...I honestly can't really believe I am thinking of sharing this but some of my online friends asked me about my "Tinder Experience" so here you go...

Tinder is basically just a hook-up app where most of the users are looking for friends with benefits or a one night stand and that is something I wasn't wanting at all. All I really wanted was maybe talk to a couple people and then leave. I enjoyed talking to some of the guys to begin with but of course I did get a lot of guys expecting to get "some fun" out of it and they obviously weren't very happy when I always turned them down. And I defiantly turned down a lot of guys!

There was one guy I matched with, that lived part time in Paris and part time in the city that I live in. We matched, and we started talking but from the beginning I knew I wasn't going to meet him but I enjoyed some of the chats we had because he was kind of interesting and we shared a couple of interests. He ended up trying to invite me to Paris, for the weekend, for a first date, and kept saying how we could stay the night in a nice hotel he knew and that he'd show me around. He thought it would be the perfect first date because "Paris is a beautiful place to fall in love". When I turned him down, his mood suddenly changed. 

I don't really understand why guys are like that. They are kind and friendly saying things like, "You are so pretty" and "You are really funny" and then you turn them down and its suddenly, "You are such a bitch. I never even liked you." and "You are so ugly!" Like thanks dude, I am defiantly not interested in you at all now!

I had a lot of guys messaging me things like that when they didn't get what they wanted, or many persistent guys who continued to push for something after I said no. Also, a lot of guy's asking for nudes. I am so glad Tinder didn't have a way of sending pictures because I defiantly escaped having to see anything I wasn't wanting to see. I know that other dating apps allow you to send pictures to each other. 

I had Tinder on and off for a while, with some interesting and enjoyable conversations, and some not so good until I was asked out on a date by someone. For some reason I decided to take this young man up on his offer and I said yes. My first Tinder date and my first "real" date. 

We met up on a Monday afternoon, for a drink in a coffee shop. It was nice, nothing very special. We just talked for an hour or so, even thought it was a little awkward as we didn't really know what to talk about, he payed for my drink, and then we said goodbye. He was nice, and we did continue messaging each other for a little while afterwards  but we didn't see each other again after that. 

A while later, just swiping through Tinder, I matched with someone and we started talking. We ended up chatting on WhatsApp, and even facetimed once which is very rare for me because I am not really a fan of video calling, and after a while of texting each other we met up. He lived a good distance away so he came to my city on a Friday evening and we met up by the train station and went to a coffee shop together. I payed, even though he did offer. I mean, who says the guy always has to pay! And then we went down to the lake together, went on a short walk, then sat down by the lake for a couple hours and just talked. It was a really nice date, and we talked about everything and nothing. He worked as a bartender and had worked in a coffee shop before and we had a great time together. We spent a long time just talking and laughing together. And, he ended up being my first kiss. (Ahh... why am I telling you all this!!) We talked for so long, not wanting to end the evening, that he ended up being late for his train home so it did come to a rather abrupt end as he had to run off. We continued texting for almost a month, but he ended up ghosting me. 

I really don't understand ghosting! If you don't think a relationship (or even a friendship) is going to work out say something, don't just leave the person hanging!!

I think I got really into the whole Tinder thing because I ended up going back on the app, and met someone else and after a little while of talking I went out on another Tinder date. We went to the cinema. It was kind of awkward at times as we both didn't really have much to say to each other. I actually did more talking than him, which was strange as I am a rather shy person especially when meeting someone for the first time. It was going alright, until the end, where he kissed me. He just stuck his tongue in my mouth without warning...and eww!! The end of the date didn't really go very well after that, and I was glad to finally get on the bus and go home!

I didn't go on another date with him after that, even though he continued to message me for a while. I kept the app too, even though I wasn't thinking of going out with anyone else, at least for a while. I sometimes just liked swiping through the pictures and now and then I would talk to someone but never with any good results. I mean, the guys on the app, they know exactly what they want and if you don't want to give them what they want they just get annoyed!

I even had one guy tell me that all girls were really there for was to have sex with and have babies!! I seriously am kind of worried for many young adults these days!

I almost deleted the app, but decided to go swiping again, and ended up talking to this young man and we got on really well. We just had a connection almost instantly. We had had some similar dating experiences and had things in common and within a week we were talking on WhatsApp. We got on really well and we talked everyday for about two weeks before we went out on our first date together. 

He lived a little way out so he came to my area for our date. We got a drink, then went to the cinema and saw Last Christmas. Then after the movie we went on a walk together. I didn't want the evening to end, and honestly I don't think he did either. I made the first move to kiss him...well I told him I wanted to kiss him, and then we sat down on a bench together....I can honestly say that was the best date I have ever been on!

And we have been together since then, and he's now my boyfriend.

That is my Tinder Experience, even though I could defiantly go into such more detail but that's all for now!!

Have you ever used Tinder, or any other dating app?

Any stories? 

I'd like to know how your experience went!

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